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“Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels” – Some bitch who never tasted dunked wings.
Like my bestie says “Ï’m all about the vleis… No treadmill”.
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Thin. It’s everywhere. It always has been. And apparently, like with everything on the fucking planet, 80’s kids will know.
In most of my memories, pre-coitus and essentially pre-conception, I, like many other women, was obsessed about what size Levi would comfortably choke me, as I cut off my circulation all through Cavendish.
Indigo. Bootleg. 32.
Even though there are blogs, vlogs and offensive spoof songs all promoting the voluptuous woman, the 90’s image of the societal perfect woman, and the mental damage thereof, has been done, making generations of women feel guilty for even thinking about bread, and men wanting bread-stick figures dangling from their arms.
This is the reality.
In my primary school’s rendition of “The lion, the witch and the wardrobe”, all the pretty, dainty girls were cast as reindeers for the white witch… and I was cast as a peasant (You know, the ones that go into battle at the end.)
Being bigger has always made being feminine much trickier. Whether I am towering over my date in heels, or having sex doggystyle, actually feeling less like a poodle, and more like a St. Bernard, nothing has made me feel fatter than looking into a changing room mirror, after carrying two children.
In my family however, being big is not in our genetic coding. After a day of self-loathing and ironic comfort eating, I accompanied my father to my grandmother, who told me a story that made me want to die… (by chocolate).
I asked about my cousin who lives there. After two kids (Yes out of wedlock. Yes, that IS genetic), this bitch hasn’t gained a kilo, and to be honest, looks even thinner than the days I envied her for being a gymnast.
The conversation, almost verbatim: (My grandmother is Afrikaans- please see my attempts at a rough translation in italics)
Ma: “Wiet jy, Eslin is so siek. Sy was heel week innie bed, le hier stok styf”.
(Eslin (my cousin) is very ill. She was off from work for the entire week. She was on bedrest. Her entire body is stiff).
Shana: “Shame ma, what happened?”
Ma: “Nee hulle was innie kaap toe waai die wind haar onner die kar in.”
(She was in Town, and the wind blew her underneath the car).
Shana: “Sorry? Do you mean a car knocked her in town?”
Ma: “Nee ek se mos vir jou die wind het vir haar gestoot. Amper oor die een kar”.
(No, I am telling you that the wind was so strong that it threw her into the one car and she landed under the other one.)
Now, here is why I am upset by this:
1. Are you telling me that this skinny bitch was thrown under the car by the wind? Never in my life has a South-Easter changed my course of direction.
What did she tell the DR?
2. This bitch is so thin that she went outside and was literally airborne for a few seconds, and now gets to take a week off from work.
Fuck this. I am never eating again. I also want superpowers.
Yesterday I went back to Legit, and tried on some more high-waisted clothing, and finally understood society’s reference to the “Muffin top”. With a pants up to my second rib, I was no longer carrying a bun in the oven…. I WAS the bun in the oven. Expanding and Expanding and Expanding.
The inner dialogue is constant self-deprecation:
” Don’t be so hard on yourself, you had two babies”……..
………..”Yes… But not for breakfast”
I felt so awkward meandering through the crop tops that I entered into another equally awkward, way more embarrassing conversation. Some thin white girl who probably stepped out of Forrester Creations was frolicking around the extra-smalls with her overly make-up’d mother.
You know’ the type, smells like musk and Avro-Schlain, wearing shiny pants and wedges. My father calls them “Biltong wat polony wil wies”.…
” Urgh mom, I hate these popular vintage clothes, everyone has one..
Me: “Does that make you an ANTI-RETRO-VIRAL?”
(Silence…)
Lack of nutrition makes you stupid.
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But as much as I want to say that I will commit to no more carbs, or less salt, or some ridiculous mantra that makes me feel better about myself when I walk through Mr. Price (“You will be thin tomorrow…. You will be thin tomorrow), I will probably just end up rationalising, and growing my hair.
I’ll just have to keep taking selfies from angles above my head.
Here is my new mantra:
“…That salad won’t make you pretty, bitch…'” Repeat three times. Cry in fetal position. Re-eat ( 3 times)…
I have no PHD…
This jeans doesn’t even wanna fit me…
I am just Shana.
I am just fertile.
I am just a hoe… with babies.