“Louis 13 and it’s all on me, nigga you just bought a shot
Kamikaze if you think that you gon’ knock me off the top
You naai’d Nadine in the backseat of my brand new foreign car
Don’t act like you forgot, I call the shots, shots, shots
Like blah, brrap, brrap
Pay me what you owe me, don’t act like you forgot………………..
Bitch better have my money!”-Rihanna.. Though I made have free-styled, somewhat.
…………………………………
“Standard Bank is now following you on twitter”. #Fok.
2012 was virtually debt free.
My ex-BF was an opportunist, who needed to merge his love of sleeping late on weekdays, with his desire to make his own money.
I suppose the everyday reality of koppeling for a thirty bag could be deemed stressful for any entrepreneur.
The dagga market was saturated at the time.
And with his fellow competitors selling a higher grade to the standard grade demographic, unless he was going to graduate to heroine, he needed a new modus opeRandNaai.
(Don’t laugh at that. That was pathetic wordplay. Pathetic. Respect yourself).
He fell quite comfortably into the bracket of “I can’t work for a boss”, to “Ag nee shame man, he’s good with his hands”.
Now, for those of you unfamiliar with that statement, it is the epitome of coloured tact.
Directly translated, it means ‘haai, he’s dom hey… but see if he can fix the TV’.
When he first started coming to my house, I felt a sense of shame and pride at how handy he was. I had always pictured myself with an engineer of sorts, and I seem to have made myself believe that this was, somehow, in his trajectory.
I seeked approval from the men in my family, who themselves aren’t the crème of the academic crop. Regardless of them consisting of council workers, buttonkoppe and I’m pretty sure one of my daddy’s brothers is a merchant, they were in unison about his vuilgatery.
‘Hy werk half’.
‘Die ding kannie paintie’.
Coloured men say the darndest things.
Anything is a parable..
“You know what they say about a man who doesn’t know how to ride a bakkie that is being towed….”
STFU Uncle Boere.
Regardless, I needed him to be seen as a man, so no alarm bells ding-donged when he asked me to take out a loan to burse his business.
As I didn’t want to burst his bubble, I obliged… like a good little girl.
He needed R25000, and I needed to be his saviour.. (I remember now how I fantasized, like many coloured girls have been conditioned to, about how he would walk up to the stage and accept his lifelong achievement award and lovingly point to me with his whole hand, open… saying …
“behind every great man………….”
So off we went to Standard bank.
His business plan was as follows:
Plan A: Dial a dop
Plan B: Dial a Car wash
Plan C: BMX customization
Either he would illegally deliver alcohol to all the residents of Strandfontein, wash the vehicles of my family and friends for money (because then they’d really respect us as a unit), or C, customize bicycles in the recession.
While he operated under the guise of being a small business owner, I am 98% certain that for three consecutive months he just lammed in his garage, spray-painting his own bike different colours, to take photos.
What is 98% of R25000?
According to Standard bank, it equals accumulative interest over a period of five years.
(a-cum-u-late-tief + period = a lekker joke hey… You must be so proud of yourself)
I digress…
His Facebook page has had 89 likes for the past 4 years.
I remember his eyes widening as we checked my balance.
Ignoring the irony of just how unbalanced I was.
And yes, in 2015, after my week-long struggle during hour-long conversations with Jaco from Debtsafe…
I have decided to reveal what hurts me the most about my dealings with “men”.
I am R40 000 indebted to various institutions.
Never attempt to turn a hoe into a househusband.
I suppose he did make one deposit, who recently turned 1.
Ladies and gentlemen, meet my Ex-BF, the Entreprenaaier.
….
“Hello can I speak to Sharna Genevevvevevee please?”
“Who am I speaking to?”
“You aaaaaaaare speaking to Thandokazihle from MDD attorneys”
“ oh….Sorry, no English.”
“It’s okay ma’am…. me neither
………..
‘……And this purple one is called Mr. Reliable.. all you need to do is stick the suction cup against the wall and you can have your way with it…”
Sorry?
I seemed to be the only one in the control group to react to what had just been said.
These women were just below the attractive line. The group at school between the mooi kinnes and the kinnes that play soccer.
You know the type. Always have sleep in their eyes, their dress is unfathomably long, and they keep saying that they ‘close’ with some popular girl who’s mommy said she must be nice to them because they are at the same church.
Whenever they take a group photo, one always thinks it’s a good idea to lift her leg across the group, while they hold it. And they all find it hilarious.
Every. Single. Time.
These were my companions on Saturday evening.
An impromptu, ‘Wanna come to a Pure Romance’ party?’ from a woman I had never met, didn’t seem strange at all.
Why wouldn’t I wanna examine dildo’s with a group of strangers?
Testament to my current social life.
The aptly coloured dildo jiggled in the dimly lit room.
This piel was far too real. A dildo with veins is a other nommer.
“So you can put it on a chair and just.. like…. ?”
I looked at the group of mostly married women, who had completely disregarded the fact that they were considering (AND Discussing with a room full of strangers) purchasing something that would allow them to, instead of sleeping with their husbands, rather naai themselves against the wall.
And the name wasn’t Mr. MakeYouCum, or Mr.OrgasmGiverWithoutYourKakBurkThatDontEvenHaveMatricStopMakingExcusesAndGo
It was Mr. Reliable.
That was the entire fantasy.
This piel would just be there for you.
Supporting you.
Doing the dishes.
Sewing.
Doubling as a towel rack.
Sexy.
And very, very sad.
I bet Mr Reliable will never druk his suction cup on anyone else’s wall, the ma se poes.
Thus I pondered the implications of the need for women to host underground skommel parties…
Why are we as women so scared of our vaginas?
We have been conditioned, too verskimmel to skommel. And with society telling us it’s wrong to explore our,… uhm… many avenues… most women haven’t realized that it is in fact, ‘G’ that marks the spot.
Instead of embracing our slegtuality, we need some overweight Barbie in a beautician uniform throwing cringe-worthy one-liners at kinnes liberated just enough to throw a secret plastic-penis-party in a yard, at night.
“Why mingle when this cream will make you tingle?”
“Hydrate. Vibrate. Don’t wait…AmIRight??”
“Dick, it’s the kick that help’s you stiek”… or whatever else her training at Agrimark in Durbanville consisted of…
I waited for my jokes to subside, listening over the murmurs about ‘Good golly gosh I love a glass of dry red”, “Thank the Lord the Kid’s are at their grans…”
“Hardy-hardy-har… Add adult-confirming statement here”.
“This weather is kak hey? why we outside? Ma se poes” was apparently ‘out of line’.
I swallowed the apple-sours just in time for “I call this work” to pick up the next item that would catapult me into hysterics.
“This one is called buzz”.
Buzz was a yellow apparatus, with two heads that seems to go where no man has gone before.
ha-ha…Buzz right-here.
And right there I learnt that the tiny bunny head, ladies and gentlemen… goes in the front. (Regardless of the animal they chose to represent it).
Many a consumer before me must have made the ghastly mistake of misusing ‘Butts Bunny’, ending up onnerste-boe in Groote schuur.. with a groote skeer. (What’s up,Doc?’)
I decided against an impomptu purchase.
I patiently waited for “Woody”, and Mr Rotato-Head to be demonstrated.
But Alas, this was going be a very different Toy Story....
I suppose deep down I enjoyed the experience, although, I just wished I had a friend in me.
……………….
“Lyle, when are you going to help me pay the skuld we made together?”
“When you take me back”.
Seems Unlikely.
His chipped teeth glistened through the crack in my window.
Nothing says ‘I love you’ like back-male.
I considered it for a second, I admit.
A throwback.
A Hit me baby, one more time.
But my loneliness isn’t killing me just yet.
I feel compelled to express to women that being alone has only been villianised by wille naaiers who do not want us to succeed.
My stance on love has again been questioned, and challenged in recent weeks, though it remains as follows.
Young ladies, please take heed.
Marriage and procreation is not a duty, it is not a milestone… it is a life choice.
Compromising your mental, physical and yes, even financial health so that you may seem to be following a social ideology and is ‘normal’ is not the way to happiness.
Before any decision, ask yourself what your true motivation is for making the particular choice.
If the answer is not “because it makes me happy”... reconsider..
You are not a tree.
……..
Pride week and the realisation that I will be credit-queer for the next 28 years, has tempted my vagina to do a 180.
Not much different to a 69, just this time I can be at the bottom, without turning my rape into a homicide.
“There is one casualty sir…. Died from choking…”
“Strangulation, Lieutenant?”
“No sir, Penis”.
In my time, I have made many a Pussy-Faux-Pa
That guy with Billabong sweater in Atmosphere.
That one bra with the red shoes
Another guy with no discernible attributes.
Yes no matter how many times I show my Pussy for pa, I cringe when I sit in a circle of women, discussing the need for a bath sponge that vibrates.
The future looks dim. (But with 7 settings).
It remains…
I cannot settle for someone long-term, and still have to install a courtesy piel in the building plans of my separate entrance.
I cannot settle for someone long-term, if they won’t keep their end of the fucking loan repayments.
And I certainly cannot settle for someone long-term… because somebody else thinks it’s a good idea.
Save-the-dated
You are cordially invited to see me take my place as Mrs. Shana Reliable.
Hy Kannie Paintie… but hy kan naai.
(Don’t be rude.. I mentioned the sewing)
I don’t have a PHD
Nobody is ever going to invite me to anything ever again
I am just Shana.
I am just fertile.
I am Just a how… With babies